Resilience isn’t just bouncing back

For the past few years I have coached students to corporate workers, educators to CEOs about resilience and one question comes up constantly. “How can we develop our resilience muscles if we are so afraid of failure?” Students tell me that they’ve grown up with their parents sitting next to them when they’re studying, correcting their mistakes even…

Dangerous advice – “Do it yourself”

I grew up hearing my mother say “If you want something done right, do it yourself”, usually accompanied with a sigh conveying equal parts exhaustion but also fierce pride. And as I grew up, I  started hearing this sentence echoed by many people around me, especially amongst strong, capable, busy women who are often the…

The career ladder is dead.

“I’m a Director of a Careers Centre, and I have a confession to make. I don’t believe in careers. Not as the traditional concept, anyway. ” That was what I wrote to Channel NewsAsia when they asked me to write a commentary piece about job seekers struggling to find the “right” career for them and…

How to deal with ambiguity

One of the biggest issues I hear about from employers is the scarcity of leaders and employees who can problem-solve and deal with ambiguity.  This week alone, I had 3 meetings with employers who were asking me about “ambiguity- training” to help their employees thrive in a world of uncertainty. Line managers often complain about…